Through the Eyes of a Rapist
Recently, rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look forin a potential victim. Here are some important revelations:1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are mostlikely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that caneasily be grabbed. They also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Womenwith short hair are not common targets.2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whoseclothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specificallyto cut clothing.3) They look for a woman on her cell phone, searching through her purseor doing other activities while walking because she is off-guard and can beeasily overpowered.4) Men are most likely to attack and rape in the early morning between 5:00 a.m.and 8:30 a.m.5) The Number One place women are abducted from or attacked is grocery storeparking lots.Number Two: office parking lots/garages.Number Three: public restrooms.6) These men are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another locationwhere they don't have to worry about getting caught.7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 years sentencebut rape using a weapon is 15-20 years.8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it onlytakes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it becauseit will be time-consuming and, also, increases their likelihood of being caught.9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas or othersimilar objects that can be used from a distance in their hands. Keys are NOT adeterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as aweapon. The idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.10) Several defense mechanisms mentioned are these: If someone is followingbehind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,look them in the face and ask them a question or make small talk. “What timeis it?” or “I can’t believe it’s so cold” or “Think we’re in for a bad winter?” Now,that you’ve seen their face and heard their voice and are more likely able toidentify them in a line-up and could more certainly identify them, you lose yourappeal as a target.11) If someone is coming toward you, hold your hands in front of you and yell“STOP!” or “STAY BACK!” Most rapists interviewed said they'd leave a womanalone if she yelled or showed she would fight back. Again, they are looking foran EASY target!12) If you carry pepper spray, yelling “I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY” and holding it outwill be a deterrent.13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can outsmartthem. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either underthe arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY, VERY HARD.(One woman in a self-defense class said she used the underarm pinch on a guy who wastrying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out musclestrands. The guy needed stitches.) Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as youcan stand it. It hurts!14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. It’s extremely painful. Youmight think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, butthese rapists said what they want is a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.So, start causing trouble!15) When a guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bendthem back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them aspossible. It’s very painful!16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of yoursurroundings. Take someone with you, if you can. And if you see any odd behavior,don't dismiss it. Go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, butyou'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
The elbow is the strongest point on your body.If you are close enough, use it!If a robber asks for your wallet or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM.Toss it away from you. He’s more interested in your wallet or purse than you.Chances are that he will go to retrieve it.THEN RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back taillights and stickyour arm out the hole and wave like crazy. The driver won’t see you, but everybodyelse will. This trick has saved lives.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc.,and just sit (doing their checkbook or making a list, etc.) DON’T DO THIS!The predator will be watching you. This is his perfect opportunity to get in on thepassenger’s side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go.AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.If someone is in the car with a gun to your head, DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gunthe engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you.If the person is in the back seat, they will get the worst of it. As soon as thecar crashes, bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body ina remote location.TIPS ABOUT GETTING INTO YOUR CAR IN A PARKING LOT OR PARKING GARAGE:A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger’s side floor, and in theback seat.B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger’s door.Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women areattempting to get into their cars.C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle and the passenger’s side. If amale is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mallor work and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.MORE SAFETY TIPS:ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be aloneand the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And eventhen, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!As women, you tend to always be sympathetic. It may get you raped or killed.Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played onthe sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane or a limp and often askedfor help getting into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.KNOW THIS SAFETY POINT: A crying baby on your porch? Call the police!The police will tell you ”Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.”Serial killers have been known to use a recorded baby’s cry to coax a woman out of her homewhen she thinks someone dropped off a baby.DO NOT open the door for a crying baby. The “Crying Baby” hoax was mentioned onthe TV show America's Most Wanted when they profiled a serial killer in Louisiana .